Premarital Sex. Is it Right or Wrong?

Premarital Sex. Is it Right or Wrong?

Premarital sex has been a matter of controversy for society throughout the years. People have different opinions on that topic, and see it in many different ways. Some people believe that sex is just something that God has given us to enjoy, and that it doesn’t matter whether you decide to be sexually active before or after marriage. Some other people believe the opposite. The popularity of premarital sex has been spread by all the entertainment media our teenagers have access to nowadays. Eight out of ten people have lost their virginity by the age of 20. Love has been reduced to a simple physical act. Long lasting love doesn’t exist for the majority of our young people. 

Many of our adolescents have lost their virginity around the age of 15 because they have been highly exposed to what the entertainment media offers today. Entertainment media displays premarital sex as something that is part of our rights as humans, and they try to make people think that the longer they wait to be sexual active, the most they will be missing. But, the truth is that instead of enjoying something that was created for that purpose, what people bring to their lives is sorrow. That is because people think of love as a simple physical act.

We have turned our culture into one where you can get whatever you want, when you want it. We don’t care how we affect others by our “wantsies”; we just take what we want and have a good time with it. This attitude has become sexual pleasure; Sex was once something a young person had to look forward to. Now, it’s no big thrill because everybody does it! It’s just another activity to do, whenever you want to do it. Sex has become so much a part of a young person’s life that our youth have had to look for something else that could be a new, exciting experience. In understanding this, it is clear to see how many people keep asking over and over again, “How do I know if I’m in love?” How can young people understand what true love is when people keep intertwining sex and love?  How can they be sure if they’re in love when the most intimate part of marriage relationship is just another habit like brushing your teeth? 

Due to the high exposure that teenagers have to sex, it is more and more difficult to find a way to make them understand that being sexually involved with their partners before marriage is something that keeps them away from knowing true and long lasting love. Since they have been persuaded by the idea of the “love test,” they believe that true love doesn’t exist in the moment they have their first relationship failure. That’s one of the reasons why we understand that premarital sex is not the best choice a young person could make.

Looking at these three issues, people losing their virginity by the age of 20, considering love as a simple physical act, and thinking that long lasting love doesn´t exist, we can conclude that sex is something that God has created for us to enjoy it in the blessing of marriage. When people try to do things outside God’s purpose, things end up the wrong way, and instead of bringing blessings they bring suffering to our lives.

Virginia Mateo.