shyness

there are many causes of shyness in children

when
Parents or one of the parents is plagued by Shyness. - parent's own self-depreciation carry them  to despreciate or not trust their child.
Parents-or one of them  behave agressively. This give to the child a vision of others as potentially hostile.
Silent or public humiliating experiences - This situation stop or distorts the way that child is being developed.
Critical relatives - Some families have a very critical culture. This posture can be open, direct (towards itself) or indirect (towards outside).
Shaming family problems - It is common for children and teenagers to feel ashamed, for instance, while their parents are separating. This can be overcome in a short time or may longer as an way of self-depreciation. Family problems or somes other things,can also cause this damage.
Unaffectionate, cold families - In some families the members do not express their feeling or do it very seldom, especially tender loving care and joy for the accomplishment of their members.All this can contribute indirectly to Shyness, insofar it does not help to develop a personal perception of one's capacity for accomplishment or feeling of being estimated,loved and respected by others.
Finally l think that shyness leads the major cause of personal and social life problem.

Something else about honesty.

Some benefits that has honesty...

If every time we are not honest, we are forced to live a double life: The true one and the false one. When we choose honesty in all aspects of life including our marriage, our business, our relationships, we live quiet and less overwhelmed.

A honest lifestyle has too many benefits, for example:

-You can get along well with your family, close friends, co-workers, classmates, boyfriend or girlfriend.

-The confidence. Honesty attracts confidence and honest friends.

Another of the benefits,
-Less stress. Honest people are better able to relax because they are being natural.

Insecurity at UASD

From my point of view the insecurity in the university is very high due to the few precautions taken by the competent authorities, that can not be possible that a person who is not  a student or employee can access it without authorization, that can be dangerous nobody knows which are the intentions of that person has, that can not continue , I fell very insecure, I had the back luck that in my first semester in the university a " limpia botas" wanted that I gave him 5$ but I told him that I hadn't to do because he was in a good physical condition and he was working in this moment, well he didn't like that I said and he threantened me and told me he would rape me, I got scared a lot and walked as fast as I could, the authorities has to find a solution to solve this problem because one day a girl can be in a wrong place and will not run with the same fate as I.

Honesty

Is one of the human values that defined you as a honest person, It is the virtue or quality that characterized a person by good manners and moral principles , is one of those values that we should have to apply and keep because is not nice that people do not trust you, for that reason I am one of those persons who think that our actions say that we are.

Addictions

From my point of view an addiction is when someone has the habit to do something continuosly therefore can not keep the control of it. Most of the time the person doesn't know that they are becoming addicted because they think they're doing something normal, but that's the problem do not recognize that they're involved  in a negative routine that can have many consequences. There are many kind of additions such as compulsive shopper, addicted to surf, addicted to gambling, addicted to sex, addicted to clean, etc... One of the way to solve this problem is looking for professional help and takes the therapy, the process it will be hard but at the end the results will be possitive. In my case I consider my self  addicted to clean, why I said tha't? because I used to do the same every day in the morning, I clean everything from the first floor to the second, fot that's reason my neighbors says that I am crazy, I recognize that sometimes I exaggerate but to me that's something normal, is only that I like to keep everything in harmony and clean.

Another brother or sister?

Is frustrating to think when you believe that your family is completed , without problems , without liar and with the members that you meet, suddenly our father tell us that he has other daughter.

Would be painful thinking about my reaction, well, all depend, l mean, if the girl is order than me would be less terrible, but if she younger l' d feel really disappointing and jealous because l' m the little girl in my family.

Let's talk about "Shyness"

Ever since we were childrems, our parents have been telling us" Don't be shy " & now that we have grown up, we must wonder if  we really undertand what is being shy.

There are certain people who can't even imagine what it is like to be shy, because they dont have problems with showing their emotions and expressing themselves, but there are others who tend to be shy. These people want to talk and comunicate with others, but maybe they are afraid of making mistakes while talking or of getting close to others. Shyness can have differents causes: for example, not having the needed appreciation during the childhood, being bullied for being fat, ugly, slow, short or even tall... All those things can make them insecure of theirselves. Shyness is a tipical characteristic of people who have low self-esteem and for people who tend to have other anxieties as well.

I asked some peoplec how they would define shyness, and some of the answers wer:; "knowing in your head what you want to say or do, but your own mind is blocking your body to move blocking your mouth to talk.

To overcome shyness I recommend to go one step at a time, to slowly expand your own bounderies.The best way to do this, is to start stepping out of your comfort zone in a familiar situation, amongst people you trust. These people know you for who you are,and will not judge you or make fun of you. Another advice to overcome shyness is to copy people you admire, to copy their behaviour, because those people may have good virtues that  witch will motivate you to step out of your shyness. And last but not least, you might take into consideration to try a bit of alcohol if you are in social events. A little bit of alcohol is going to give you the extra push to start socializing, to speak your mind and to do what you want to do.

Autor: Kender Diaz Montero

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