shyness

there are many causes of shyness in children

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Parents or one of the parents is plagued by Shyness. - parent's own self-depreciation carry them  to despreciate or not trust their child.
Parents-or one of them  behave agressively. This give to the child a vision of others as potentially hostile.
Silent or public humiliating experiences - This situation stop or distorts the way that child is being developed.
Critical relatives - Some families have a very critical culture. This posture can be open, direct (towards itself) or indirect (towards outside).
Shaming family problems - It is common for children and teenagers to feel ashamed, for instance, while their parents are separating. This can be overcome in a short time or may longer as an way of self-depreciation. Family problems or somes other things,can also cause this damage.
Unaffectionate, cold families - In some families the members do not express their feeling or do it very seldom, especially tender loving care and joy for the accomplishment of their members.All this can contribute indirectly to Shyness, insofar it does not help to develop a personal perception of one's capacity for accomplishment or feeling of being estimated,loved and respected by others.
Finally l think that shyness leads the major cause of personal and social life problem.

Something else about honesty.

Some benefits that has honesty...

If every time we are not honest, we are forced to live a double life: The true one and the false one. When we choose honesty in all aspects of life including our marriage, our business, our relationships, we live quiet and less overwhelmed.

A honest lifestyle has too many benefits, for example:

-You can get along well with your family, close friends, co-workers, classmates, boyfriend or girlfriend.

-The confidence. Honesty attracts confidence and honest friends.

Another of the benefits,
-Less stress. Honest people are better able to relax because they are being natural.

Insecurity at UASD

From my point of view the insecurity in the university is very high due to the few precautions taken by the competent authorities, that can not be possible that a person who is not  a student or employee can access it without authorization, that can be dangerous nobody knows which are the intentions of that person has, that can not continue , I fell very insecure, I had the back luck that in my first semester in the university a " limpia botas" wanted that I gave him 5$ but I told him that I hadn't to do because he was in a good physical condition and he was working in this moment, well he didn't like that I said and he threantened me and told me he would rape me, I got scared a lot and walked as fast as I could, the authorities has to find a solution to solve this problem because one day a girl can be in a wrong place and will not run with the same fate as I.

Honesty

Is one of the human values that defined you as a honest person, It is the virtue or quality that characterized a person by good manners and moral principles , is one of those values that we should have to apply and keep because is not nice that people do not trust you, for that reason I am one of those persons who think that our actions say that we are.

Addictions

From my point of view an addiction is when someone has the habit to do something continuosly therefore can not keep the control of it. Most of the time the person doesn't know that they are becoming addicted because they think they're doing something normal, but that's the problem do not recognize that they're involved  in a negative routine that can have many consequences. There are many kind of additions such as compulsive shopper, addicted to surf, addicted to gambling, addicted to sex, addicted to clean, etc... One of the way to solve this problem is looking for professional help and takes the therapy, the process it will be hard but at the end the results will be possitive. In my case I consider my self  addicted to clean, why I said tha't? because I used to do the same every day in the morning, I clean everything from the first floor to the second, fot that's reason my neighbors says that I am crazy, I recognize that sometimes I exaggerate but to me that's something normal, is only that I like to keep everything in harmony and clean.

Another brother or sister?

Is frustrating to think when you believe that your family is completed , without problems , without liar and with the members that you meet, suddenly our father tell us that he has other daughter.

Would be painful thinking about my reaction, well, all depend, l mean, if the girl is order than me would be less terrible, but if she younger l' d feel really disappointing and jealous because l' m the little girl in my family.

Honest hearts produce honest actions.

To be an honest person firstable you have to be honest with yourself and then with the others. Honesty is a gift that you have to start from childhood, sometimes you have to be honest with yourself where there are not witnesses.

When we listen the local radio most of the news is the corruption that is plague us all, and that is the reason why there are so many insecurity because we have all those people who do not show honesty with their themselves and their behavior, that is why in the Dominican Republic there is a problem of honesty with the politicians. They are driving luxury cars, they have luxurious salaries, big bank account, and living around a starving society which is the condition of the most citizens.

We work hard to make a living. Out of the money we earm we must pay taxes and those are the nation's resources that pervecive corrupts politicians use for they own benefits.

Leaders are manipulating to their advantage the law, reforms are being undermined by the all pervasive corruption in the country because most of the politicians mislead administration.

A trivial problem is easy to solve but corruption on this country is influence by leader. Dios Tenga Compacion De Nosotros.

And example of a dishonesty person:

I remember I had a trustfull Moto-Taxi, he drove me everyway I need to go, when I was late or far I used to call him to pick me up and I payed him good for his job.

One day I send him to do a deposit to my mother, I gave him $2,500 DOP (Dominican Pesos); it was 2,000 DOP to my mother, 200 DOP to pay the transaction on Western Union, 200 DOP for him, and he had bring me 100 DOP plus the ticket of the consignment .

I didn't go because I have not time to do it because of my job.

When I finished to work and I meet him again as soon as he saw me, he started to apologize because he gamble the money that I send to my mother with him.

For me he is not a honesty person, he is not a person who you can trust no even someone to recommend to friends to do a job for them.

To finish my post on the blog I post you a picture I found in facebook.

Let's talk about "Shyness"

Ever since we were childrems, our parents have been telling us" Don't be shy " & now that we have grown up, we must wonder if  we really undertand what is being shy.

There are certain people who can't even imagine what it is like to be shy, because they dont have problems with showing their emotions and expressing themselves, but there are others who tend to be shy. These people want to talk and comunicate with others, but maybe they are afraid of making mistakes while talking or of getting close to others. Shyness can have differents causes: for example, not having the needed appreciation during the childhood, being bullied for being fat, ugly, slow, short or even tall... All those things can make them insecure of theirselves. Shyness is a tipical characteristic of people who have low self-esteem and for people who tend to have other anxieties as well.

I asked some peoplec how they would define shyness, and some of the answers wer:; "knowing in your head what you want to say or do, but your own mind is blocking your body to move blocking your mouth to talk.

To overcome shyness I recommend to go one step at a time, to slowly expand your own bounderies.The best way to do this, is to start stepping out of your comfort zone in a familiar situation, amongst people you trust. These people know you for who you are,and will not judge you or make fun of you. Another advice to overcome shyness is to copy people you admire, to copy their behaviour, because those people may have good virtues that  witch will motivate you to step out of your shyness. And last but not least, you might take into consideration to try a bit of alcohol if you are in social events. A little bit of alcohol is going to give you the extra push to start socializing, to speak your mind and to do what you want to do.

Autor: Kender Diaz Montero

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Skeleton in the closet, we all have them.

Every family has difficult stories!

Skeleton in the closet are those hidden details of the the past that recall to the conscious mind: shame, sorrow, anger, embarrassment, trouble, and so on.
When something unexpected is discovered in family you may feel some of those emotions.

In most of the cases the anger is because of what people will think(people opinions) about your family embarrassing situation.
"People give too much importance to what others think."

You also feel anger and a lot of anger because you feel betrayed by your own family and you just feel like you're completely alone in this world and you just want to run away far away from everyone and everything.🙄😬

                           My friend cheats in her medicine's classes

  My friend cheats in her medicine's class; because of that, she doesn’t

know anything about that subject, maybe she doesn’t know that cheating

could be very dangerous. The reason I say that is because if she doesn’t

learn about her subject she could cause the death of her patients. In the

worst case my friend could lose interest in living; doe to the fact that, she

accustomed of getting everything easily and she won’t make any effort to

achieve her goals.

Is honesty the best way?

 when it comes to honesty , there are diffent points that should be discussed before qualifying some one as an honest person :

 can someone  be honest and  susessful?, can an honest relationship last forever ?,can someone accept the true even when it is to hard and senseless.?

few companies are sussessful by implementing an honest policy.they find much more profitable to safe money wether  cheating the customer with bad products ,  paying a low salary to the employee or even wrost do not paying taxes.

also in a relationship  is kind of difficult to be upright . there are many events that can affect it , we have seen several times how man or women are unfaithful to eachother ,how they lie to eachother, furthermore, there are others that would not like the true, there are people that do not accept the reality, who desguise it because they do not want to be hurt.

when a woman buy an ungly dress and asks her husband if it is beauty  , if she looks sexy ,there is a high probability to a yes, nevertherless he likes it.

honesty depends of our feelings and  benefits .nobody  would do something that affects him directly, no body would  say the true if her or his  lifestyle or stability is on risk.

bold and bashful

                        The Bold and the Bashful

Bold: {of a person, action, or idea} showing a willingness to take risk; courageous and confident.

Bashful: it means shy or timid. You might feel bashful when meeting a famous actress, a high-ranking government official, or just someone whom you find really good-looking.

People have different way of being. They can be shy or they can be friendly, but that we have to know is that we don't have to criticize a person for the way they act.
If you are friendly help the shy to become bold or just you have to look for the way of being together.

In my opinion everybody have their way of being of this world and for this world being world it has to be like that.

About me!

Well, I don't know what to say about myself. I had thought of not writing this note, but my wife Melina (Melly as I call her) would just not let me stay behind the pages. She insisted that I should share with you all my love, feelings and emotions personally.

My father was a man who did not know how to hate. A man - who loved and was loved by one and all. A man for whom, family and friends were above his own life ... that’s who I wanted to be and that's who I always want to be.

My Wife... We believe that wife is the second half of a husband and that they both are incomplete without one another. I am the living proof of that statement. And I tell you, if you haven't got married yet - get married soon. You'll never know what you are missing until you fall in love! I call my love - my 'better half'.
That's correct! - If I would not have been a software professional, I would have been an artist or a poet or a writer. That's because apart from art and paintings, I also love writing poems and short stories. I keep a diary where I put whatever strikes my mind as a potential theme for my stories or poems.  Take it easy, not so far I'll send you a beautiful lyrics.
See you soon

Unit 3

I'm an honesty person

Security at UASD

Something that I could notice in the CEDE of UASD is that even we have security, we don´t have it. Many people can get in there without being reviewed. You can see how some people can get in the classroom and ask for money, but the point is not that, the problem is that imaging if one of those people is using some weapon and want to make a mess, what could happen?.

I hope do not see something like, but I think that the authorities of  UASD have to take control of that situation. In this form we could feel safer in the classroom. 

Secrets in family 

In my life by the moment I have not experimented something like have a family secret but I could see it in my uncle life.

He told me that one day he was with a lady only one night and after that he knew by a friend that the girl was pregnant. When he knew that he talked with the girl and he said to her that he wanted to help her but she said that she was good and she didn't have any problem and that she lost the baby.

After that my uncle didn't know about her for a long time. I think like five or seven year ago he knew that he has a son because she said that to him.

Nowadays he has a good relation with his son and the boy could know his others brothers and sisters and also his cousins. I don't know why this women did something like that, but thank to her the family could know an other member and we are happy for that.

  

Bold and the bashful

Bold and the bashful 

Bold people are extroverted and out going.

On the other hand, the bashful are shy and 

quiet.

In my personal opinion it is not a good idea to be 

too much extroverted because the others can 

have a negative persetion of you.Even the bold 

have the advantage of meeting a lot of people. 

One of the advantage of being bashful is that 

you wont have problem because of your tongue.

And the disadvantage is that shyness affects directly 

personal relations ships,and make you unable to act 

and speak as you would like and also shy people 

have low self-esteem.

I think it is better to be in the midle,not bashful,but

not too bold.

I anderstand the reason why people conceal the true about family,specially men. 

sometimes they do it,because they dont want to lost what they had built for years 

I mean their family,they feel afraid of getting separate from his family or end up in 

divorce.

So they decide to hide the true until to find the apropiate moment for saying it

for example 

I have a half brother 

my mother get married to my father even she knew he wasnt an easy man with 

wimen,she was not the only girfriend he had either,but as my mother was not jealous at

all.My father continued having a happy life, like he were singer.

there was a rumor in the neigborhood sound everywhere,but my mother did not 

care about it and my father had a baby in the stree with other marriage woman.Even my 

mother get upset she acepted the baby, but my father didnt  gave him a last name because

of his false father.

finally to tell you the true,the boy looks like my father,and everybody said the same.fourteen years later after his false father died,the boy end up eating and playing with us in our house,and now he is militar and he can not get separate from his five brothers.

security at (Uasd)

Security at uasd

First of all l think that authorities have to take control of the secutity of la uasd in theirs hands

because it is not confortable enviroment for teaching or learning under umproperly security 

situation.

It is true that the(uasd ) university is a public place,but it has to be able for people that belong 

to this academies,I mean students and workers.this is not a place for everybody,who wants 

to enter without any type of registration or identification like dogs on their house .

la uasd is full of stranger,it seems to be a serious situation difficult to stop due notbody 

worry about it.

I,m not talking about the stranger  who came into the university asking for money during our 

class,i,m talking about all those people that are not student,whose go inside 

the university and made a lot of bad things,like smoking or looking like shoes cleaner and guess what?some of them are drogs salers,there are others people asking for money classroom by classroom cheating the student,saling product interupting the process of class and causing distration to students and teachers.

finally I believe in GOD and I think that is posible to get the solution of this problematic

situation before something terrible occur,but the authorities need to be motivated to act .