Sunday, October 31, 2010

HAPPY PEOPLE




Happy people are characterised by high personal competence, self esteem, optimism and a sense of personal mastery and control. Life satisfaction is related to self esteem and optimism. Not surprising as optimism is a part of the self esteem construct. Happiness is related to satisfaction in all life domains. – family life, romantic relationships, friends, health, education, jobs, leisure activities, housing and transportation. Higher levels of positive affect are associated with being less self critical, setting higher goals, and more self efficacy in tasks.

Happy people have a more positive attitude toward others both those that they know and those they don’t know. Happy people judge friends, families and spouses more favourably and are less jealous of other people competing for their partners affections. Happy individuals have outgoing extroverted personalities. They are warm, gregarious, interested in new things, affiliative, lively, active and energetic. Of the personality traits affiliation (the inclination to relate to other people – warm, cheerful pleasant, sociable, understanding, contented and affectionate. In the hierarchy of needs outlined by Abraham Maslow, the need for affiliation (or “belongingness”) appears midway between the most basic physical needs and the highest-level need for self-actualisation.) had the highest correlation to happiness. In fact positive affect seems to be the glue that holds the various aspects of extroversion (ascendance, sociability, affiliation) together. Positive affect seems to be related to feeling sociable.

Extroversion and introversion are generally understood as a single continuum. So if you are high on one then you are low on the other. While extreme introverts and extroverts are a reality, most people fluctuate between the two poles throughout their lives.

Introversion is not the same as shyness. Introverts choose solitary activities over social ones by preference, whereas shy people avoid social encounters out of fear.

Extroversion is the act, state, or habit of being predominantly concerned with and obtaining gratification from what is outside the self. Extroverts tend to enjoy human interactions and to be sociable, enthusiastic, talkative, assertive and interested in seeking out excitement. They take pleasure in activities that involve large social gatherings, such as parties, community activities, public demonstrations, and business or political groups. Politics, teaching, sales, managing, and brokering are fields that favour extroversion. An extroverted person is likely to enjoy time spent with people and find less reward in time spent alone. They tend to be energised when around other people, and they are more prone to boredom when they are by themselves.

Introversion is the state of or tendency toward being wholly or predominantly concerned with and interested in one’s own mental life. Introverts tend to be more reserved, less outgoing and less assertive in social situations but are also marked by a richer inner world. They are not necessarily loners but they tend to have smaller circles of friends and are less likely to thrive on making new social contacts. They are less likely to seek stimulation from others because their own thoughts and imagination are stimulating enough. They often take pleasure in solitary activities such as reading, writing, drawing, playing musical instruments or using computers. An introvert is likely to enjoy time spent alone and find less reward in time spent with large groups of people, though they tend to enjoy interactions with close friends. They prefer to concentrate on a single activity at a time and like to observe situations before they participate. Introverts can be overwhelmed by too much stimulation from social gatherings and engagement. The introvert tends to think thoroughly before verbalising their thoughts.

(part of this information was taken of a virtual magazine named *sharing*)

Saturday, October 30, 2010

THE BOLD AND THE BASHFUL

Two separate discussions this week got me to thinking about the nature of shyness. Shyness is a fuzzy concept. Is it a psychological disorder like a phobia? Is it physiological? Is it just an excuse not to do stuff?

Apparently, about 50% of our population is shy in one way or another.

The word “shyness” is often associated with words like, “painful, “debilitating,” “crippling,” or “paralyzing”. Yet, according to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, shyness is not a mental disorder, but rather, a behavior pattern characterized by inhibition in some situations.


That seems like a bit of a tame definition when I think of some of the people I’ve known who really are crippled, paralyzed and in pain over their shyness. People in their 20s and 30s for instance, who’ve never had a real relationship. Who long for intimacy, but are held back by their own excruciating shyness.

I try hard to understand when people say they’re too shy to do something, but it’s such a foreign idea to me. How can you hold yourself back from doing something you really want to do or really need to do because of some undefined timidity?
Speaking to strangers
Public speaking
Giving presentations
Chairing meetings
Performing on stage
Doing live radio interviews
Being on TV
Being interviewed for jobs
Conducting interviews
Being in large groups of people
Being naked or partially naked in front of people you don’t know well (doctor, bea
ch, 1st time with a new partner)
Asserting yourself in restaurants or shops or other public places (e.g.: sending a meal back, returning an item, asking for help)
Dating
Talking to authority figures

It’s difficult to imagine going through life trying to avoid most of these things. I’ve done them all and will probably do them again – some because I need to and some just because they’re fun. Sure, there is often nervousness associated with these things, but that’s sometimes part of the challenge or excitement of going through with it.


I don’t consider myself an extrovert. I don’t go out looking for confrontation or voraciously seek the limelight and I don’t dance naked with lampshades on my head at parties, but I can’t think of anything that any notion of shyness would prevent me doing.

If you’ve ever not done something because of shyness, it would be interesting to hear how the whole shyness process prevents a person from fulfilling a desire or task. On the other side of the coin, it would also be interesting to hear about really bold things you’ve done despite anxiety.


** This information was taken from internet written by Kennedy Musekiwa.

Thursday, October 14, 2010

THANKS GOD WE ARE OUTSIDE FREEE!!!!!!!!




ON august 05, 33 men were buried in one mine in Chile.They were there during 69 days and finally they were started to be rescued last tuesday.


Goverment did an effort to rescue them with life and all the time were worried about that.


It is very important when people work close to achive whatever we want. The goverment and rescuers worked hard to take out all of them. When the rescue began I was very nervous, and felt very happy when I saw the first miner outside. I admire as the goverment worked to achieve it. Thank God all that you did.

Things that we have to do to keep us younger


well here i have some techniques such as:

1.sanitacion, that s to say to be clean always.
2.right eating for example to eat alot of vegetales and salad, that is very important if you want to be younger, and do not eat junk food that s to say dont eat fast food, even sometime we have to eat that, but we have to try to let it.

3.Exercise for example to run every day.
4.to sleep at least 6 hours.
5. do not use any types of vices such as: alcohol, drugs, tobacco, cigarrettes etcs

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

Old People Are Wonderful


Old people had devoted all their life to bring up their children and they had worked hard to get that.When they are aging they lose their capacity to remember to someone, their names, including their family. Sometimes they life with their family and they are pleased when some member of their family went to visit.

They love their grand-chidren and they enjoy playing with them. Also they know give a good advice when we need one( If they have all capacities) and grand-mothers cook delicios and excellent food, grand-mother teachs her daughter to cook giving the recipe as she can do it.
It is a shame that some people don t take care to their elderly people and they are abandoned (some of them) by their children because they don t want to against to their parents.Sometimes they are let in an institution that care of them. We can t forget all that these eagers and enthusiastis people did to us and now is times to help them, caring and giving love to aging people
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Sunday, October 10, 2010

-Pastillas para no soñar-


I've never listened to that song, but now that I've just listened to it and I think it has a very interesting lyrics, but what surprised me the most was the line "If you want to be 100 years, don't live as I do".

I agree with that Joaquín Sabina has very sarcastic lyrics. I think the song gives good advices, through Sabina's way.

Saturday, October 9, 2010

JS, pills not to dream


I just think that if we care it is normal that we skip a step in the rules, is so boring always doing things well, maybe we are more likely to live if we care, but also we can die of loneliness, boredom and sadness.

Juan Luis Guerra - La Guagua (Video Oficial)

Friday, October 8, 2010

Interview to a person who was an addicted





I know a guy that was an addicted to alcohol, to gamble and to bet basseball. He began to drink alcohol, whem he began to work with his first job, as a steward of hotel. He was earnig a lot of money and he began to go out with his friends whem he was free.

His first addictions was the alcoholism, his parents told him that he was becoming an addicted to alcohol and he told thiers that it was false.For a long time he was drinking alcohol every night, them he began to gamble and to bet basseball too. When he had three addictions he began to lack to his job,( somethimes he arrived to the job with the same clothes that was wearing the day before). Most of the time he arrived late to the job.Also he had a lot of problem with his family, because he didn t wanted that they spoke about that.
One day, when he arrived to his job, his boss was waiting for him because had a supervition with all of the workers and he felt embarrassed because he didn t take a shower and had a terrible apparence bad smell.
To this day he began to let these addictions, he told me that at first was very difficult but he wanted let that and he had let. Today he has his friends and his family and he is very happy living away from the addictions.

Pills not to dream / pastillas para no soñar

I think that Juaquin Sabina with this song ( pills not to dream) wants tell us as we shoul do if we want life for a long time.

We should move away from things that can be dangerous for our life. Things as drugs, alcohol, infidely to ours couple, gambling, eat fast food etc. If we want life over 100 years we need care our choleterol, go to the gym,share with people we love, eat healthy food etc. If we wan life happy. We can enjoy without these things
I think, Juaquin S. Want to express the reality of good live and healthy.
If we live according those consolar:
¨Keep up inside of the low¨,doing excercise, having a home(not a house, rather a home, because home bring segurity), take care of velocity and contamination, withstand temptation, check with a doctor (when said ¨ watch over your cholesterol), he talk about a jealusy when say ¨doubt in marriage's bed. if we keep those things present we didn' have a problem neither with healthy nor with low nor with any body.

He finish like Salomon in the proverb vanity of vanity all is vanity

I think all of it mean that we have to do a correct things for having a long live , No what I think is correct, rather what is the best for me, not by feelings rather by conbiction.

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

PILLS NOT TO DREAM

I think that the song express what should we do if we want to have a long and healthy life. Also at the same time, is clear that with the lifestyle that actualy we lead our generation will not reach stadistically a hundred years.

Sunday, October 3, 2010

Susan Boyle



on each opportunity that i can analyze this real story surprised me, this is an example of someone believing that age or econimic conditions can not achieve his or her dreams is a lie, you just have to fight. *YES YOU CAN AS SUSAN BOYLE*

Adults teaching.


I am the kind of person who think that there are jobs that adults at the age 40-60 perform better than young people; how to teach, because have a lot of experiences and knowledge that young people have not yet

My grandma

The new lesson we talked about in classes, “The Oldest Old”, brought to my mind the image of my grandmother. She’s not still a centenarian, she’s 87 years old. She doesn’t live here in D.N., but in San José de Ocoa. She is a very good person, but she mantains very outdated customs.

She’s an old women, and she thinks she doesn’t need to continue living. “She’s only an old women”, and she absolutely disagrees with the lifestyle of the new generations. She doesn’t like seeing people dancing, with short clothes, and She neither likes loud music. Every time she comes to the city, she feels anxious and she wants to leave soon. She was raised learning very religious customs, she only likes watching the mass on TV.

Anyhow, we all love her, and all of us get worried every time she gets sick. I hope my grandma can live many years more.

Saturday, October 2, 2010

"Story of one love on the internet"



Hi people! this is a true story, I took it from the internet and then I translated it for U.



I'm a 39 year-old woman who despite her maturity fell in love on the internet.

There was a time I was lonely and one day I entered to a website and met a mature man who changed my life in every sense. There are still people who trust in another person despite they can't look him in the eyes.

I had a good economic position, I was born in Costa Rica but lived in Mexico for 30 years, single, nice, pretty, with a high self-steem and two mexican children, so, when I met that man who used to write so beautiful things, I decided to trust in the posibility of rebuild my life by the side of a man who said he was alone and he needed me, so, our relationship became very emotive being able to listen to his voice through the phone from a country to another (he is from Costa Rica and was so curious for me meeting someone from my own country).

After eighteen years without coming back to Costa Rica, now I was before the expectancy of returning. The communication through this media became daily, and I was quite sure about what I was feeling.

My life in Mexico was very good, I had a good job wich was giving us a comfortable life to me and my children, I had two business, a car, everything anyone could ask for, I just lacked of love, but I had found it.

After 8 months we began to think about the possibility of going to live together in Costa Rica, make a living together, so I decided to sell all my possessions, my business, and had to leave my elder daughter who was about graduating, with their expenses covered by selling the car. It was all a madness, I was crazy of love and happiness.

After a month living together, the marriage promise didn't exist anymore, and he had lied about things so basic like his age -he wasn't 48 but 55 years old-, but I didn't care, we continued with that relationship apparently formal and cute, but he never took me out to anywhere, he wanted a woman to wait for him in the house while he had fun and made a "bachelor living"... this lasted almost 2 years, I say that because I'm about returning to Mexico by my daughter's side, and completely determined to raise my self esteem... the person I am.

This is something I'm not ashamed, on the contrary, my wish is everyone to know it because this media is not trustful. I came to my country (Costa Rica) with the ilusion of rebuild my life and I started a business wich because of the bureaucracy and the lack of motivation of this man could not cope. I had to spend all my money in Household expenditure, and after one year I discovered he was in chat rooms looking for different women who he used to tell lies, and a big quantity of E-mails from 20 year-old girls. I was devastated.

I will return to Mexico in December, but defeated, and with no money, and he... He continues on the internet deceiving more women. This is so sad, however, I warn people who write here because there are still honest people.

Thank you very much, hope you can publish this.